MOST WANTED:REAL PROGRESSIVE MEN AND WOMEN
ARVIND K.PANDEY
One of the most common flawed impressions that we have generated is that an attempt to restore cherished ideals is an attempt to make the women run backwards in time. The whole debate to restore ideals is an attempt to paint women in tune with modernity in wrong colours. That some hate women and are not interested in making them progress at par with progressive ideals.The whole debate is intended at giving a bad name to women of our times by labeling them characterless, prostitutes etc..etc.
Yes,if one has a superficial view of the debate related with resurrection of value-based beliefs then it’s quite possible to arrive at such vague and flawed conclusions.
Nobody is interested in painting all women in wrong colours.The real purpose of the whole debate is to show the dangers of following a flawed ideals.Yes,the word ”progressive” sound good. But if it means giving way to corrupt and wrong set of ideals I am afraid it can never be accepted as it is. Well, if ”progressiveness” is really making women strong and if it’s really intended at achieving a perfect women then I have no problem in endorsing it. However, that is not happening. This word ”progressive” has come to be identified with everything aimed at toppling cherished institutions of Indian culture namely marriage and family. And that’s why I hate this word.
This word has become synonymous with evil traits.That’s why,even being aware of the good side of women,I feel that it’s necessary to intercept the implications of turning ”progressive” without ever wondering what will be the consequences of following such flawed theories.
One of the easiest way to check the flawlessness of any concept is to see the fate of societies based on it. Look at the West.The consumerist and individualistic traits have made all relationships superficial and impermanent. Do we want to be mirror image of their societies? The grass always look greener on the other side.That’s why our feminists and so-called champions of progressive society are not interested in acknowledging the real picture. Since Indians never learn from history, they are once again committing the same blunder which they committed years ago. The foreigners came to do business and later occupied the whole nation.
Now the times have changed.But the political equations have never changed. A country can only be weakened if it’s cherished institutions are demolished .All the theories intended at making women progressive are actually intended at shattering our homes. No need to tell that concept of family in Indian land is one of the most unique on whole globe.
Earlier, when we were not progressive we lived together as joint family. But as individualism increased we now have nuclear families. The way both the sexes are progressing we will soon have nothing as things like marriage or family ,not even nuclear.
Just see the result of following progressive trends. ”
Stress, impatience, feminism, ego, extra-marital relationships as a result of working, confusion in sharing of housework as a result of working women, etc are all contributors and often trigger domestic battles that lead to divorce”
Rohan has just posted excerpts that form the concept of feminism. Can we ever imagine the consequences of turning into progressive beings based on these ideals ?
Pointing out once again some progressive views.
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Destroy the family,” as Lenin said, “and you destroy society.” Thereby he merely repeated what Socrates had said before and what Friedrich Engels and Karl Marx put into words. Lenin set out to do just that, hoping that a new society — with the State as the ultimate father — could be constructed.
“How will the family unit be destroyed? ... the demand alone will throw the whole ideology of the family into question, so that women can begin establishing a community of work with each other and we can fight collectively. Women will feel freer to leave their husbands and become economically independent, either through a job or welfare.”
— Female Liberation, by Roxanne Dunbar.
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“The nuclear family must be destroyed, and people must find better ways of living together. ... Whatever its ultimate meaning, the break-up of families now is an objectively revolutionary process. ... “Families have supported oppression by separating people into small, isolated units, unable to join together to fight for common interests. ...
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— Functions of the Family,
Linda Gordon, WOMEN: A Journal of Liberation, Fall, 1969.
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“Feminists have long criticized marriage as a place of oppression, danger, and drudgery for women.”— Is Marriage the Answer?
by Barbara Findlen, Ms magazine, May-June, 1995
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I just want to know what’s the use of following such progressiveness if that is leading to breakdown of relationships? Some very refined souls on IB are ridiculing us.One of the easiest thing is to ridicule.Some IB members are expert in it.But had they really bothered to understand ,they would have really understood that we are not attacking women but women’s attempt to follow wrong set of ideals.
If progressive nature is annihilating the relationships, what’s the use of turning progressive. If that’s sabotaging all intimacy between husband and wife, leading to lawsuits what’s the point in worshiping these progressive ideals? Toady marriage has become a contract. Anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed at the time of marriage.
What sort of society are we heading towards. Nobody is blaming women for all this but then why women should not be targeted for annihilating their share of responsibilities? Everybody is talking about rights but nobody is interested in duties.
Look at our earlier Indian society. There were problems but we were more happy as family. Now today both the sexes are working but still not very happy .That’s because we are all the time talking about rights but not ready to provide each other space. The divorce cases are result of overemphasis on individualistic traits .
Some are indeed genuine cases but most of them are result of meddling with false set of values. Sadly, all the provisions are being employed by the fair sex to have undue advantage in the relationship.
I also wish to know whether Indian women really need to be empowered. In other words, is it necessary for them to become progressive at par with borrowed ideals? In my eyes, yes Indian women have certain problems but does that make their dependence on false set of values imperative for their existence ?
