INDOWAVES

WILL MANMOHAN SINGH PROVE THIS TIME THAT HE IS NOT A WEAK PM?

ARVIND K.PANDEY

The Indians have once again shown faith in the abilities of Manmohan Singh.He is our PM once again. Naturally,we all have high expectations from him.We expect that this time he will be little hesitant in taking definite and authoritative steps while dealing with the grave issues.This time he cannot offer the excuse that he could not do this or that because of the allies.

This time there will be no self-serving political interventions of strange allies that often created embarrassing scenes for him.No doubt the electorates that allowed him to kiss the PM chair again will expect something more than soft and populist policies.

His opponents see him as a weak PM.I am sure this time he will definitely set new precedents that will kill this tag or label.It will be interesting to analyze what were those issues that made him earn infamous label-a weak PM.We need to have a look at some of the issues that haunted his earlier stint as PM.

1.Why was there no effective mechanism to counter terrorist activities in India during his previous tenure other than issuing weak statements after every incident? What difference are we going to see in the policies this time ?

2 What compelled Manmohan Singh to state that Muslims have first right over every resource” ? Will he restate the same things? Let’s see whether he rises above making outrageous statements or not.The appeasement of minorities has been the chief weakness of Congress.Will Manmohan Singh dare to bring a change in the approach of Congress or will he be dictated by other power centers in Congress ?

3.What prevented him to tackle Naxalites head-on? The Communists prevented him to take concrete steps.No more Communists now.Are we going to have better steps and changed policies towards Nepal ?

4. Manmohan Singh himself gave signals that he was a weak PM.Last time we heard him several times that he just cannot do anything because of his alliance partners.I don’t think he will be lamenting this time.Or are there still some chances to echo such shrill cry ?

5.Why was he silent when Tasleema was given a wrong treatment at the hand of Leftists in Bengal?

6.Why was case against Ottavio Quattrocchi weakened ? Well,it remains to be seen how CBI is used this time.Will this body ever truly be able to function impartially ?Will it pursue cases related with Mayawati and Mulayam in proper way ?

7.Why Afzal’s death punishment is being delayed ?What will be the stand of government this time? Further delay or immediate execution ?

8. What was the urgency to rope in Sachhar Committee ?The committee has revealed its findings.How will the government ensure its execution without irking the majority ?

9.The Gujarat High Court quashed the U C Banerjee Committee whose report negated the conspiracy theory behind the Godhra train carnage, holding it as “unconstitutional, illegal and void.”

It has become tendency of governments to form commissions.Last time Lalu formed this extra-legal commission and PM did nothing to stop Lalu from doing so.I hope this time he will not let his minsters make mockery of Commissions.

10.Many decisions taken by Arjun Singh, Lalu Yadav and Renuka Chowdhary were indicative of the fact that there was no such thing as collective responsibility during his previous tenure.In other words,PM was a silent spectator by not questioning the motive of these leaders.Thankfully, Manishankar Aiyer and Renuka are not there.Will he ensure that various ministries act in line with Constitutional provisions instead of them turning into medium for catering to the over inflated egos of Congress leaders.

11.There was sharp price rise that made essential commodities away from the reach of common man ? Will this time “Daal-Roti” be within reach of aam aadmi or will the economic policies of an economist PM keep the “Daal Roti” at a safe distance from the common man?

The dubious gestures or dubious stand on these issues made PM earn tag of a weak PM in the last government.Let’s hope this time he emerges as a “strong PM”!

IN-DEPTH ANALYSIS OF VERDICT 2009 FROM EYES OF A CRITIC

ARVIND K.PANDEY

The cat is now out of the bag .Let me say without entering in the narrow groove of subjectivity that once again Indian electorates have fooled all of us by voting in a very unpredictable manner. It appears that they are above all theories and predictions shared by the political columnists and so-called exit poll analysts. At present all of us are hailing the “intelligence of voters”. The political pundits are now saying that people have aligned with Congress only because of its commitment towards the development of nation.

Some are saying that our voters have done a great job by marginalizing casteist agenda of parties like BSP. The parties like Left and SP that are mixture of indifference, short-sightedness and vested interests have been taught a fitting lesson by the electorates by reducing them to virtually non-existent players in the Indian political landscape. It’s indicative of fact that people have by now realized that such parties are greatest obstacles in way of a resurgent India.

The Congress is at present on cloud nine. It has every reason to be in upbeat mood. It never expected such a thumping verdict in its favour. Manmohan Singh, who is set to be Prime Minister again, said: “The people of India have spoken, and spoken with great clarity.”Sonia Gandhi said that she never doubted the intelligence of electorates -““eventually the people of India know what is good for them and always take the right decision”. Some very enthusiastic analysts are highlighting the “Rahul factor” that helped Congress some stature in UP. Rahul Gandhi said on Saturday that his party’s victory was a rejection of the politics of caste and religion and acceptance of “clean and honest” politics symbolised by Prime Minister Manmohan Singh.His decision to campaign alone in UP did not boomerang, which many feared. After all, his campaigning in 2007 in UP was a huge failure. In other words, he has matured as politician and now hailed as coming of age who is interested in greater democracy within parties apart from greater role of youths.

Let’s discuss the fate of BJP now. It has graciously accepted its defeat. Mr LK Advani has expressed its desire to quit. BJP said: “India needs political stability. It needs to put the national economy on track. It needs to strengthen national security. For these challenges, people have given a mandate to the UPA leadership to govern. The BJP and its allies, while acting as a constructive Opposition, will fully co-operate with the government in strengthening India.”It’s really pleasing to watch that BJP has not given any bitter reaction as it did in 2004 : “We accept the mandate of the people of India with all humility. We shall do our utmost to honour the spirit of this mandate.”

The Leftists, on the other hand, are shell-shocked. Prakash Karat said that huge defeat “necessitates a serious examination of the reasons”. CPI national secretary D. Raja said that the CPI would learn lessons for the future. His hope of having an “anti-Congress” government is now shattered after the humiliating defeat of Left front in West Bengal. There is not much to say about the performance of SP,RJD and BSP other than this that people have totally ignored their presence, their opportunistic elements.

Well, it’s very difficult to point out objective and subjective factors that dictated the outcome of verdict 2009. I wish to observe the whole results from critical eye. Though you cannot ignore the stunning victory of Congress with Congress and its allies gaining more than 50% seats, it’s hard to say that electorates really wanted Congress in the driver’s seat or that Manmohan Singh’s clean image and his policies mattered most to the electorates. How can you forget the fact that this time voting percentage has been very low in most of the states? Mumbai , the city that witnessed a big terrorist attack, didn’t took much interest in voting with half of its electorates refrained from voting. That was the case in other major cities as well. One of the chief features of this election was that it was devoid of issues. It was devoid of emotive elements. That’s why Congress was wrapped in insecurity and was wooing JD(U) and others. It really cannot be stated with conformity that Congress has really got mandate on the plank of stability .

Some state-specific strategies, the charisma of money, people’s frustration with Left in West Bengal and Kerala and complex political scenario in Andhra and Tamil Nadu enabled the Congress to make a comeback. In UP people are now totally unhappy with Behenji’s way of ruling and as a result allowed both BJP and Congress to register it’s presence. That’s why I feel it’s too early to endorse “Rahul’s magic”. In my eyes the strange hand of destiny has allowed the Congress to make a comeback. It remains to be seen how Congress use this so-called support of electorates.

For BJP it’s time for it to realize that why it’s not able to increase its vote bank. However, there is no reason for it to lose heart. It should realize that it has still managed to make its presence felt. It has lost in states where it had no strong presence and ironically in these states Congress was dominant like Kerala and West Bengal. It has to realize that if you don’t fulfill the promises made to the electorates ,the electorates are going to reject you no matter what’s your ideology .The victory of Sheela Dixit in assembly elections in Delhi or the BJP’s landslide victory in Chattisgarh or Nitish’s JD(U) spectacular victory in Bihar or BSP’s current loss in UP should make it very clear to the top brass of BJP that people want concrete progress and real development.

If you somehow can assure the voters that you are really going to do some good work, the voters are bound to elect you. I have always been in favour of two party systems. The present scenario is not exactly not moulded in two party systems but it has virtually allowed BJP and Congress to rule the roost. Anyway, it’s hard to determine the consequences of such new political developments.

I am also very happy that people have shown door to the Leftists. When last time they formed the government with Congress I was bit unhappy but,somewhere in my heart,happy too!!I thought that this alliance would allow the people to taste the real side of Left.I am now more than happy because the results confirm that people have now really known Left. Their exit along with the exit of likes of Ram Vilas Paswan and Renuka Choudhary-the lover of feminist agenda- is good sign for the development of democratic principles.

In nutshell, the burden of proving now rests on Congress. The real game begins now. Let’s hope that Congress does not play foul by making mockery of the faith of the electorates.

MY TAKE ON EVE-TEASING

ARVIND K.PANDEY

Yes,such obscene gestures targeted at women are distasteful.The aggressive stance of girls can ward off the eve teasers.Eve-teasing has taken form of social evil.It needs to be tackled in all possible ways from intensified vigil to teaching self-defense techniques to women to make lives better for themselves.

However,you cannot ignore the changes that have hit the society.What about the conditionings created day and night by so many sources that treat women no better than sex object?

You also cannot deny the fact that dress one wears speaks lot about one’s personality.If women are so bothered about eve teasing what’s make them wear revealing clothes ?The skimpy clothes are certainly not an open invitation to harass the girls but then wearing them does send wrong signals.

I do agree woman of our times are facing lot of problems. However,it’s time to realize that times have changed. Every age gives rise to peculiar set of problems.Have you witnessed ragging sessions ?Girls too participate in them and force the boys to perform all sorts of indecent acts.They too also indulge in immoral and indecent gestures on road.

I am not trying to lessen the intensity of problems faced by women.But it would be nothing short of hypocrisy if I ignore that women have become hypersensitive.They know that a little tact combined with aggressive stance can save them from such gestures.Still they create a tamasha.

So learn to handle such unwanted acts with smarter use of brains.

Sometimes back I read a wonderful observation by an American lady wherein she has stated that most of us take it as a compliment when someone says ”Sexy” to them.

The other way to react is to become angry and think of beating blue and black the person who said it.This is cent percent an Indian girl’s standard response.If that’s the case,they are still trapped in worn out methods of women of ancient times.The evolved women will react like an American lady.

Receive it with smile instead of creating ”halla” or astonishing mess.Still interested in delivering few punches? I will be more than happy if few punches across the face serve the purpose of aggrieved lady.I am not against as seeing it as a real solution.There is no harm in employing aggressive tactics.

And yes,please don’t understand I am trying to endorse the acts of eve teasers.I am also not diluting the pain felt by the women.I am just trying to view the issue from an evolved perspective.

WHY MEDIA IS PROMOTING SUPERSITIONS AND GHOST STORIES ?

ARVIND K.PANDEY

Well, media in our times is primarily money oriented. It needs money to conduct its business. Money in our times comes easily via sex related stories or via “bhoot- pret” (ghost) stories. So every other magazine is either conducting dubious surveys hovering around our sexual preferences or if that’s not being done then new columns dealing with so-called new ways of healing mind are being introduced. These “merchants of money” are cashing-in-on our basic instincts.

If that’s not treated as anti-women revelation let me inform you all that women, especially ones hailing from affluent class, love to buy magazines/newspapers only to read astrological predictions.

Then these women alone are the most sincere viewers of “Bhoot-pret” (ghost)stories showed on various channels. In other words, they are responsible for high TRP enjoyed by these serials! They are the first ones to visit many so-called Babas with names like “Mobile Baba” or “Cycle Walein Baba”.

It’s time for us to become religious or spiritual in real way. It’s the only way to eliminate superstitions from our lives. When you are really spiritual you come to kill superstitions forever .

FEROZ KHAN: THE STYLISH FILMMAKER

ARVIND K.PANDEY

Feroz Khan the style icon of yesteryear is now no more on this planet.He will always be remembered for introducing style and glamour-oriented movies, for big budget movies that had soulful music.He was one of the most handsome actors to grace the silver screen. The presence of style quotient made his movies stand out from other movies. Though his movies were usually formula based, the brilliant direction in league with haunting music always made the movies hit among the viewers.

His quest for scenic locations made the movies real fest for the eyes. Watch Dharmatma. The picturesque locations featuring Afghanistan when gets combined with beauty of Hema Malini the result is lethal. He started his movie career with Didi and came into limelight after doing movies like Oonche Log and Arzoo.

He received Filmfare Best Debut Award Didi (1960 ),Filmfare Award for Best Actor in a Supporting Role in movie Aadmi Aur Insaan and Filmfare Lifetime Achievement Award in 200.Safar , Mela, Upaasana,Ek Sapeera Ek Luteera ,Oonche Log,Arzoo,Aadmi Aur Insaan and Aurat ,to name a few, are some of the notable movies. Apradh was his first directorial venture .

However, he attained unparallel success after the release of Dharmatma made under his direction. The movies directed by him like Qurbani,Janbaaz ,Dayavan and Yalgaar allowed him to carve a permanent place in the hearts of viewers.

WHAT MAKES LOVE STORIES GREAT

ARVIND K.PANDEY

All great love stories rest on trust and mutual understanding between the partners. The great lovers kept their love intact with the help of high degree of trust between themselves amid unforeseen and unpredictable consequences.Its easy to fall in love in our times but its never too easy to retain the intimacy for a long time.

Probably, that’s why most of the love stories of our times don’t inspire us than the tales of ancient lovers like Radha and Krishna Shakuntala or for that matter like Dushyant and Shakuntala.Anyway, its time to fall in love but lets keep it away from the eyes of moral police! True, in a lovers world moral police has no place at all.
Tags: Great Love Stories, Bonds Of Lov

FEMALE POLITICIANS:CORRUPT AND INEFFICIENT LIKE THEIR MALE COUNTERRPARTS

ARVIND K.PANDEY

It’s a fallacious observation that women in power are going to make a significant change.Had that been the case American would have definitely given preference to Hillary over Obama!!

My point is that let’s elect a suitable candidate for positions that matter lot to our country.Let’s not be swayed by emotion-treating woman as supreme or above all flaws- while choosing people as policy makers.

What has been the contribution of Pratibha Patil as President till now ?
It’s a fashion in our times to boast of women’s abilities in glorified terms without bothering least to analyze their contributions in proper light.

Look at some of the contributions of female politicians.Indira Gandhi might be hailed as ”iron lady” and I too personally admire some of her decisions but that’s no reason to ignore the fact that she was a dictator who hated opposition of any sort.She was the first one to trample the dignity of courts for her vested interest.Can anyone forget the emergency period ?

What has been the contribution of Jayalalitha as CM ?What’s Mayawati is doing as CM ? Both of them have virtually set new records in field of corruption.

Benazir Bhutto too had been involved in corrupt practices.Bangladesh is at present in grip of female politics. However, with each passing day, Bangladesh is turning into paradise for all sort of extremists that have become huge threat for Indians.

So it’s clear that it’s not women in power that will make significant change.Only better candidates are going to change the destiny of any nation.It could be either he or she !!Let’s not commit the fatal blunder of glorifying the abilities of woman!!!

WHY DO WE NEED RELIGION ?

ARVIND K.PANDEY

The essence of religion is beyond the realm of people in league with dull intellect.

All religions are journey from ”God with attributes” to ”God without attributes”.It’s journey from ”God with form” to ”God devoid of form (read formlessness)”.

Before you realize that life is nothingness or pure consciousness there are several stages.Religions merely let you know the steps but realization is beyond religious scriptures.

Small children are taught that ”A” stands for Apple even though it’s not the ultimate truth.However,it serves the purpose.Religions, customs, beliefs etc.also do the same.They give you the elementary knowledge , making us capable of apprehending the highest truth-NOTHINGNESS.In other words, don’t ignore the importance of religion in our lives if we are really interested in shattering the illusion called life.

UNFOLDING THE GLORY OF SRI RAMA

ARVIND K.PANDEY

Effect Of Chanting Rama Nama

Chanting the Name of Rama is the only way out in this Age of Kali!
if one cannot do even this (simple thing) one is completely doomed!
Repeated chanting of the Name of Rama enhances prosperity! — sweetens the tongue, too!
it purifies all - from the common man to the scholar!
It is the Name that Lord Siva and His Consort Parvati chant!
that removes sorrow and bestows peace!
Chanting the Name of Rama, Hanuman crossed the ocean! — and, lifted the mountain!
mountain sized sorrows melt away like the fog!
Chanting the Name of Rama, Sabari attained Liberation!
the Name and the Named are not different!
there is no barrier for chanting the Name of Rama!
all barriers are removed as one repeatedly chants the Name of Rama!

Source: http://www.namadwaar.org/articles/ramanama.html

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NEVER FORGET THE GLORY OF SITARAMA

Once Saint Thyagaraja sang a song
extolling the mighty power of Rama “But
for the power of Rama, could a mere
monkey cross the mighty ocean? Would
Lakshmi Devi, the goddess of wealth,
become his consort? Would Lakshmana
worship him? Would the intelligent
Bharata offer his salutations to him? But
for the mighty power of Rama, would all
this happen? Indeed, Rama’s power is
beyond all description.”
There is no Amruta (Divine ambrosia)
greater than Rama’s Name. Today people
have forgotten Nama Chinthana
(contemplating on the Divine Name).
They repeat the names of cinemas, but do
not repeat God’s Name. That is why the
country is facing hardships. The educated,
intellects and scientists do not think of
God at all. Some people deem it below
their dignity to apply Vibhuti on their
foreheads. They have it on their foreheads
when they are at home and rub it off the
moment they step outside. This has
become a fashion! Why should one be
afraid of chanting God’s Name? Let
people talk as they like. You don’t need to
be afraid. Spread the glory of Rama’s
Name in every nook and corner of the
world. You can chant any Name of your
choice - Rama, Krishna, Govinda, Siva,
etc. As people have forgotten the Divine
Name, every home is in turmoil. There are
conflicts even among brothers. As there is
no purity within, unsacred feelings have
crept in. People are running after money
and power. Can money and power give
you protection? You find so many in this
world who have plenty of money and are
occupying positions of authority. Are they
able to enjoy peace and happiness? No,
no. Only the Divine Name can grant you
peace and happiness. One who neglects
God’s Name is bound to be ruined.
The letter ‘Ma’ is the life force of the Siva
Panchakshari Mantra Om Namah Sivaya. If
‘Ma’ is removed from this, it reads as Na
Sivaya, meaning inauspicious. Likewise, the
letter ‘Ra’ is the life-force of the
Ashtakshari Mantra Om Namo Narayanaya.
The life-force of the Panchakshari Mantra
‘Ma’, and that of the Ashtakshari Mantra
‘Ra’ together have formed the Divine
Name RAMA.

Source: http://sathyasai.org/discour/2002/d020421.pdf

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NEVER HAVE FALSE IMPRESSIONS

I just want to briefly narrate here an interesting anecdote that happened during the coronation (Pattaabhisehkam) ceremony of Sri Rama after His return to Ayodhya from the 14 years of “vanavas” (living in forest)
All were busy on the coronation day revealing their extreme happiness. Sri Rama was seated with Sita on the throne with Angathan (son of Vaali who was killed by Sri Rama) standing on one side with a drawn sword and on the back was standing Bharatha holding an umbrella above the head of Sri Rama. There was Vasishta Maha Rishi preparing for the Yaga for the incoronation.
As the coronation ceremony started, all those who had a look at Lakshmana were awe struck. Lakshmana was looking at the ceremony with his eyes wide open, and with his mouth slightly open and with a sarcastic smile on his face. Everyone was visibly upset, for, Lakhsmana, everyone knew was the most vociferous in trying to get the throne for Sri Rama and how anxiously he awaited this day of coronating Sri Rama. Now looking at Lakshmana’s posture like this, every one in the Mantapa (hall) made his/her own interpretation for the sarcastic smile worn on the face of Lakshmana.
Vasishta Rishi thought like this:
“Oh, after consulting the Almanac, I fixed the date of coronation 14 yearsback and the coronation did not take place, and so many calamities took place thereafter. Now, I have again fixed the date for coronation. So he is making mockery of me.”
Vaali’s son Angathan interpreted Lakshmana’s sarcastice smile this:
” He is mocking at me because I am holding the raised sword in the service of Rama who killed my father”
Bharatan intepreted the smile like this:
“Lakshmana is scoffing at me probably because that even though I had theAyodhya Kingdom in my hand I did not hold on to it and instead holding theumbrella to Rama.”
And Sita thought:
“He must be mocking at me because, I am not worthy of sitting on this throne having been Ravana’s captive for a year in Lanka.”
And what did Sri Rama, the Avathaar in human form think of Lakshmana:
“Lakshmana must be wondering how I deserve to sit on this throne having asked Sita to prove to the whole world that she was “pathiviratha” by entering into Agni (Fire), after she was released from the capitivity of Ravana.”
Thus every one made his/her own interpretation to Lakshmana’s sarcastic smile and in a chorus shouted “Lakshmana! Why are you smiling sarcastically like this?”
Lakshmana suddenly jumped up hearing the calls of all, and profusely apologised to every one for his behaviour, explaining the reason therefore.
At the time when Sri Rama was made to go to the forest for 14 years, Lakshmana made a vow that he also would accompany Sri Rama to the forest and stay with him for all the 14 years, then bring him back safely and make him the King of Ayodhya which would be his sole purpose of living and until that was achieved he would not sleep. Lakshmana was well known for his unflinching devotion to his brother Sri Rama
On the first night in the forest, he was standing in vigil outside the”Parnashalai” (hut) where Sri Rama and Sita were asleep. He started feeling sleepy. He tried his best to drive away his sleep but could not. Immediately he invoked “Nithra Devi” (goddess of sleep), and getting her darshan told her his vow and prayed to her not come near him for these 14 years.” She said she had to do her duty but since Lakshmana was on a special divine mission, she allowed him to go without sleep for the fourteen years but on one condition that she would sweep on him any time she pleased thereafter and he should not stop her. Lakshmana agreed and also promised to co-operate with her.
Accordingly when every one was busy in the coronation celebration, NitraDevi suddenly announced to Laskhmana that she was going to make him sleep. Lakshmana requested her to allow him to witness the coronation and thereafter he would go into sleep for any period. Nithra Devi however, did not listen to him but gave him a concession that his eyes would remain open and everyone would be thinking that he was awake but actually he would be asleep. Because of Nithra Devi Lakshmana was actually asleep, even though he looked wide awake and because he was asleep he had that sarcastic smile on his face.
When Lakhsmana thus explained the reason for his apparently strange behaviour and sought the forgiveness, every one burst into tears including Sri Rama and embraced him seeking his forgiveness for having misunderstood him.
So the disease of misunderstanding others has been prevalent from time immemorial and even the Avathars were not left untouched by this disease.
Let us always think noble of other’s actions. If at all we have to pass judgements.
Let us make thorough enquiries and then only pass the judgements and just as thumb rule.

V. Krishnan

Source:
http://www.geocities.com/Athens/Styx/7153/lakshmana.html

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MOST WANTED:REAL PROGRESSIVE MEN AND WOMEN

ARVIND K.PANDEY

One of the most common flawed impressions that we have generated is that an attempt to restore cherished ideals is an attempt to make the women run backwards in time. The whole debate to restore ideals is an attempt to paint women in tune with modernity in wrong colours. That some hate women and are not interested in making them progress at par with progressive ideals.The whole debate is intended at giving a bad name to women of our times by labeling them characterless, prostitutes etc..etc.

Yes,if one has a superficial view of the debate related with resurrection of value-based beliefs then it’s quite possible to arrive at such vague and flawed conclusions.

Nobody is interested in painting all women in wrong colours.The real purpose of the whole debate is to show the dangers of following a flawed ideals.Yes,the word ”progressive” sound good. But if it means giving way to corrupt and wrong set of ideals I am afraid it can never be accepted as it is. Well, if ”progressiveness” is really making women strong and if it’s really intended at achieving a perfect women then I have no problem in endorsing it. However, that is not happening. This word ”progressive” has come to be identified with everything aimed at toppling cherished institutions of Indian culture namely marriage and family. And that’s why I hate this word.

This word has become synonymous with evil traits.That’s why,even being aware of the good side of women,I feel that it’s necessary to intercept the implications of turning ”progressive” without ever wondering what will be the consequences of following such flawed theories.

One of the easiest way to check the flawlessness of any concept is to see the fate of societies based on it. Look at the West.The consumerist and individualistic traits have made all relationships superficial and impermanent. Do we want to be mirror image of their societies? The grass always look greener on the other side.That’s why our feminists and so-called champions of progressive society are not interested in acknowledging the real picture. Since Indians never learn from history, they are once again committing the same blunder which they committed years ago. The foreigners came to do business and later occupied the whole nation.

Now the times have changed.But the political equations have never changed. A country can only be weakened if it’s cherished institutions are demolished .All the theories intended at making women progressive are actually intended at shattering our homes. No need to tell that concept of family in Indian land is one of the most unique on whole globe.

Earlier, when we were not progressive we lived together as joint family. But as individualism increased we now have nuclear families. The way both the sexes are progressing we will soon have nothing as things like marriage or family ,not even nuclear.

Just see the result of following progressive trends. ”

Stress, impatience, feminism, ego, extra-marital relationships as a result of working, confusion in sharing of housework as a result of working women, etc are all contributors and often trigger domestic battles that lead to divorce”

Rohan has just posted excerpts that form the concept of feminism. Can we ever imagine the consequences of turning into progressive beings based on these ideals ?

Pointing out once again some progressive views.

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Destroy the family,” as Lenin said, “and you destroy society.” Thereby he merely repeated what Socrates had said before and what Friedrich Engels and Karl Marx put into words. Lenin set out to do just that, hoping that a new society — with the State as the ultimate father — could be constructed.

“How will the family unit be destroyed? ... the demand alone will throw the whole ideology of the family into question, so that women can begin establishing a community of work with each other and we can fight collectively. Women will feel freer to leave their husbands and become economically independent, either through a job or welfare.”
— Female Liberation, by Roxanne Dunbar.

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“The nuclear family must be destroyed, and people must find better ways of living together. ... Whatever its ultimate meaning, the break-up of families now is an objectively revolutionary process. ... “Families have supported oppression by separating people into small, isolated units, unable to join together to fight for common interests. ...

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— Functions of the Family,
Linda Gordon, WOMEN: A Journal of Liberation, Fall, 1969.

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“Feminists have long criticized marriage as a place of oppression, danger, and drudgery for women.”— Is Marriage the Answer?
by Barbara Findlen, Ms magazine, May-June, 1995

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I just want to know what’s the use of following such progressiveness if that is leading to breakdown of relationships? Some very refined souls on IB are ridiculing us.One of the easiest thing is to ridicule.Some IB members are expert in it.But had they really bothered to understand ,they would have really understood that we are not attacking women but women’s attempt to follow wrong set of ideals.

If progressive nature is annihilating the relationships, what’s the use of turning progressive. If that’s sabotaging all intimacy between husband and wife, leading to lawsuits what’s the point in worshiping these progressive ideals? Toady marriage has become a contract. Anticipatory divorce petitions are being filed at the time of marriage.

What sort of society are we heading towards. Nobody is blaming women for all this but then why women should not be targeted for annihilating their share of responsibilities? Everybody is talking about rights but nobody is interested in duties.

Look at our earlier Indian society. There were problems but we were more happy as family. Now today both the sexes are working but still not very happy .That’s because we are all the time talking about rights but not ready to provide each other space. The divorce cases are result of overemphasis on individualistic traits .

Some are indeed genuine cases but most of them are result of meddling with false set of values. Sadly, all the provisions are being employed by the fair sex to have undue advantage in the relationship.

I also wish to know whether Indian women really need to be empowered. In other words, is it necessary for them to become progressive at par with borrowed ideals? In my eyes, yes Indian women have certain problems but does that make their dependence on false set of values imperative for their existence ?